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| Sometimes it seems like men were just put on this planet so we'd have something to agonise over with the girls. Are most of them nutbags, or are we completely wrong? Well, we can depend on one man to bring some relief to this table. His name is Adam, and he’s crossing the firing line weekly to bring us girls some method to the madness of all that we call male … | | 
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STORY OF THE WEEK
Do guys like girls who wear revealing clothes?
This month, I got a few of my friends to have a stab at your questions, just to give you a taste of a few of the other male views out there ....
From Bri: “Generally speaking, what do guys think about women's fashion? Does it work in a girl's favour to show skin (like wearing mini’s) or are guys put off by that look?”
From my mate Sam:
“Hell yeah it pays to show off skin, but only one bit at a time (you have to leave something to our wild imaginations). So if you’re showing off your cleavage, don’t show us your thighs as well. If you’re showing us your back, cover up your front (like Hilary Swank at the Oscars). That’s the difference between sexy and slutty.”
Do guys hate it when a girl earns more than them?
From Sarah: “Do guys feel intimidated or insecure if their girlfriends earn more than them? The reason I'm asking is that I'm fresh out of uni and have been working for nine months. I have just been promoted to Assistant Marketing Manager. My pay has gone up 40% and I worry my boyfriend of two years is not taking it too well. He feels like a failure because he is two years older, doing his second degree. To make things a little worse, we are in a long distance relationship.
I trust him 100%, and he has my heart. How can I make him feel better? I send him love letters and gifts. I feel guilty, and love him just the same. Any suggestions? How can I tell him it’s just the same old me? It doesn't matter if he is not working, he still has 100% of my heart. Telling him that just brings silence. Breaks my heart and I feel really sad. Any suggestions would really be appreciated! I do love him lots.”
From Little Adam, my younger brother, long-time housemate and a former contributor to this page (who happens to be in exactly the same position with his girlfriend …):
“Woah, I can tell you the number one thing you are doing wrong … you’re smothering him. Ugh, I can’t even breathe reading this letter, so I can’t imagine how he feels. Guys hate that. At least, I do. I admit when I found out my girlfriend earned more than me I was a bit cut and sulked for a while. But then I realised I had to wake up to myself and get over it … and myself. The best thing was my girlfriend never apologised for it. And why should she? She never mentioned it again after the cat was out of the bag and now I could care less. My advice would be to ignore the issue: you’re fussing about it is turning it into a bigger deal than it needs to be. And if he can’t get over it then he’s a baby.”
Why can a guy cool off when he’s got you, but want you the minute you’ve moved on?
From Kate: “I was seeing this guy and we both admitted we really liked each other. When we were together we really enjoyed each other’s company. After a few weeks though he cooled off and then broke it off with me. Since we worked together we still saw each other at work, but I still managed to go on my merry way. Then, he asked me out again. Since I still really liked him, I said yes. But the same thing just went and happened all over again, and has happened more times since then than I could possibly count. I only need to start seeing him for him to start losing interest and start flirting with one of my friends, but as soon as I move on he wants me back. What's happening with him?”
From Eve, my better half. Okay so she’s a girl, but she’s smarter than a guy anyway:
It is often said, and unfortunately often true, that girls think with their hearts while boys think with their penises. We believe that if we give a boy another chance they'll realise how much they care for us and want us back, but all they think is it's another chance for a quick bonk with no strings attached. Once a boy realises that we'll come running back at the first sign he gives, he thinks all his Christmases have come at once -- the more we do it the less he respects us and the more he thinks he can get away with it.
The other cliche that generally happens to be true is “you only realise what you had after you've lost it”. Keep your distance and stay strong, more often than not he will come to his senses and come back on more equal terms ... and if he doesn't, he wasn't worth it!
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